Here’s some weekly puppy love from me to you, including my thoughts on Forgive and Forget.
“We need lots of love to forgive, and we need lots of humility to forget. Humility completes forgiveness, before we forgive somebody we need to know that we too need forgiveness, and it is here that humility of the heart comes in” – Mother Theresa
So, you might be wondering what puppies have to do with forgive and forget. Well, first off, when they make a mess in the house instead of outside, you might get upset, annoyed, or mad, but eventually (and usually pretty quickly) you’ll get over it and forgive the cute little puppy and forget about it until the next time it happens. Last week, during one of our snowstorms, we didn’t take our puppy out according to her normal schedule, nor did we take her out as much as she’s used to. So, guess what happened…yup, we had a couple of accidents. So, at first, we were wondering what the heck happened to our good little puppy?
After further thought, we realized it was really our fault, not hers, which lead me to think about people, and how hard it is for our human nature to accept responsibility for our mistakes sometimes. It’s much easier to blame the other person.
Personally, I’ve experienced many times in my life when I’ve been disappointed or gotten upset at someone, blaming that person for making me feel bad. It’s sometimes really hard to forgive someone, and sometimes even after you forgive someone, you might get hurt again, and have to forgive them again, and again. Forgiving that person requires love or a decision to love that person. But, forgiving doesn’t mean we have to forget, right? Well, until I read the quote from Mother Theresa, I hadn’t thought about the fact that humility is the answer to being able to forget, that we need to understand that we too need to be forgiven, even when we might not think so.
The last part of that quote really struck me – “we need to understand that we too need to be forgive, even when we might not think so” – because usually when we think someone has wronged us, we think they need to be forgiven, not us. In fact, if we got off our high horse, and tried to think about the needs of the other person before ours, we might realize we had perhaps set too high an expectation for the other person, or said something insensitive, or been less considerate than we should have been. We might have contributed to or even caused the problem. So, we actually need to be forgiven too.
Humility is a tough quality to develop, or to want to work on. It goes against the very grain of what our competitive society rewards. It also often means swallowing our pride and letting someone else “win.” I’m still working on it, and I know it’s going to be a lifelong lesson, but I feel like I’m understanding it more and more as I get older. Interestingly, the more I try to work on humility and put the needs of others before mine, the less I care about what other people think about me, and the more I’m comfortable just being me.
I know this is kind of a heavy post, so with that, I’ll leave you with this sleepy little puppy who was completely zonked after playing outside in the snow this week.
What are your thoughts on forgive and forget?
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